My boyfriend is on online dating sites
Q: The boyfriend I met online still looks at dating sites — should I confront him? Don't be duped into thinking that online dating is some kind of free-for-all, where normal rules of courtesy don't apply.
The explanations for this are pretty weak but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active.Within a few moments, though, it dawned on me what I was looking at.In 2009, a photographer friend, Jenny, had snapped some photos of us around the house for her portfolio. It’s the honeymoon stage, where everything is fresh and exciting.It’s the perfect stage, as you haven’t moved into a routine.Neither the images nor the site were immediately familiar to us.The pictures hadn't been taken from our social network profiles, nor had Patrick and I ever online-dated.The primary reason to keep an online dating profile active is simple: the desire to meet people. Maybe he just likes having his ego stroked when women flirt with him. He may not flirt but likes the idea that women like him. At the very least, this action is a serious sign of disrespect.This is a problem since he’s not in a position to be flirting! If you’re his woman, he should appreciate that and shouldn’t be pulling this kind of thing.Many relationships breakup at the three-month point, as some people only like the beginning stages of a relationship and don’t want to get serious. He might have told you what you wanted to hear, but he didn’t come out and ask you first to be in a committed relationship, although he said he wasn’t seeing anyone else. You also don’t know if this morning when he said he loved how he felt with you, that he had swiped for the last time and was ready to delete his Tinder account, right? There’s a saying, “Seek and ye shall find.” Why did you create a fake Tinder profile to try to catch him? You felt insecure about your relationship status early on and didn’t trust him.From where he sat, he probably enjoyed dating you and hadn’t moved to a more serious stage yet. You were happy enough with him to want your relationship to be exclusive. Chances are he wanted to see where the relationship was going to go and got caught up in the game. If you’re sleeping together, he also might not want to give that up. Probably because you weren’t sure he wanted to be exclusive with you. You wanted to catch him and behind HIS back, logged on as a fake person to see if he’d take the bait. No guy wants to feel like his girlfriend is checking up on him, even if it’s innocent.