Israeli men in dating
Many women traveling to Israel for the first time don’t understand this. “I’m going to play a Jewish husband,” the child replies.
For instance, I am a man, but I am not bad, because I am engaged. While it is true that Israeli men are generally more progressive in their dealings with women than are their Arab neighbors, the difference is equivalent to the behavioral gap between, say, Viking pillagers and Mongolian highway robbers—except for hair color and culinary preferences, it’s difficult for an outsider to distinguish between the two.
To be ruled by one’s emotions and feelings, uncontrolled and undirected by logic, values and clear thinking, with no clear sense of goals and responsibility, is to ignore the only factors which can establish a firm foundation for a permanent and mature life-long relationship.
The theme repeated everywhere in novels and movies is that “I am in love and my love is beyond my control”; “I fell in love”; it was as though someone pushed me off a cliff and it was all accidental and unintentional.
Eliana Stern, an observant immigrant from Germany of three years, prefers the subtle approach: “Secular Israeli men – and to a certain extent surprisingly also religious men – are often quite aggressive when it comes to ‘picking up’ women.
He’s like, a warrior and a poet, all wrapped up into one. But just as German-Israel diplomatic relations can be fraught with complications, so can German-Israeli inter-dating, in part due to different mentalities and dating codes (and the issue of intermarriage, for some).Israelis and Germans of all ages who have dated on both sides of the Israeli-German curtain have offered some insights.The German sulks over his first – and second – beer, until he gets the drunken courage to ask her why she keeps looking at him. “Israeli guys don’t need a drink or two before they have – how can I say it – the ‘nerve’ to just start a conversation with you,” she said.Israeli assertiveness could be a plus or minus, depending on the woman’s preference.Dudu tells Linda that he served in a top-secret commando unit, Sayeret Haticha, until he was wounded in a battle that has not been declassified to this day. The two go out “for coffee,” he says, and she tells him about the senior thesis she hopes to write on Beduin handicrafts. Somehow, they both wind up in his apartment, “for more coffee,” he says. Linda’s thought process: “I don’t know what to do—he’s so handsome I could just die. Click here for online version (Jpost subscribers) Click here for PDF print version During last year’s jubilee celebrations of the Jerusalem-Berlin diplomatic relationship, much fanfare was made about economic cooperation, cultural exchanges and academic collaborations, but one topic went little discussed: German- Israeli romantic relations.Another kind of diplomacy is taking place in bars, restaurants – and bedrooms – in which the bonds of love (or lust) create unique and intimate intersections of German-Israeli past, present, and future.To fool oneself through this tactic is to lose control over oneself.Romantic love is not always related to real love, especially when it ignores the true personalities and mutual interest of those involved.